What Does Your Tone of Voice Really Say?

Your voice is an expression and a personal vibration that belongs to only you. The way you speak sets you apart from any other person. Your voice is the gateway to your inner and outer self and can say a lot about you.

When you speak slowly, it gives others the impression that you are calm, confident and in control. On the other hand, if you are rushing your words or shouting, it may leave the impression that you are nervous, and perhaps even agitated or angry. I am sure you’ve heard the expression “it’s not what you say ~ but how you say it.” The wrong tone of voice can spoil the message; and by not being aware of your tone, what you are trying to convey can be easily misinterpreted.

Be mindful of how you speak. You can talk with authority, without being bossy. You can be assertive, without sounding pushy. You may also speak softly, without seeming insecure. It’s all in the delivery…it’s all about the sound of your tone and your energy. Tone sets the mood for your conversation, so be sure that how you are speaking, reflects your true feelings. You are in control your tone,  and because your tone may change with your mood or disposition, perhaps it might be wise to take a short pause and think before you speak.

Conversations and reactions happen so quickly; it’s not always easy to pause, but it is very necessary. By doing so, your interactions with others will be much more meaningful. Over time, you will develop a warm tone that others will not only want to hear, but they will listen and understand your full intentions.

“Be mindful of how you speak ~ for what your tone is reflecting ~ may be different than what you think others may hear.”

~ Jill Lee, Ph.D. ~