Life itself; everyday is a learning experience. Circumstances and situations occur; which causes life as you know it to shift. It may cause feelings to change and that’s okay. Sometimes we change out of necessity, sometimes out of desire.
Every situation, challenge or relationship has hidden messages and it’s up to you to figure out what they are and address each one of them. That’s part of your self-awareness, which is important to your everyday existence.
Knowing how and what you feel about any situation should be a priority in your life. Knowing what you have control over, and tuning into your feelings is also part of your self-awareness. Know your limits and what pushes your buttons or what stresses you out. By doing so, it allows you to set boundaries that work for you and setting those boundaries is a sign of self-respect.
When you are feeling uncomfortable in a situation, or you feel that someone has crossed the line with you, it shows a lack of respect on their part. It’s okay to be direct and speak your mind, in a positive way and without feeling guilty about it. Give yourself permission to let them know where you draw the line and make them aware of your boundaries, respectfully. Remember that people are not mind readers, and your voice needs to be heard. If they can’t respect your “space” then you may have to distance yourself from them. What good is a relationship of any sorts without respect anyway?
Setting boundaries is a skill and like any other skill, it requires practice. It’s a process. You’re not going to wake up one morning and have a new mindset ready to go. Take time and allow yourself to search deep in your heart, to hear what it’s saying to you. Honor your feelings, and others will follow, with your direction.
A famous and very mindful quote by Mandy Hale
“It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it.”
Jill…..were you thinking of me? It sure seems like it again amazing timing. Thanks for your wisdom words encouragement with proof but there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!!
Sher:
You are always most welcome, I am glad I can shed some light on your path!
Warmest Regards,
Jill
Sometimes easier said than done. As a provider of healthservices, my mission is to help as many people as I can. The line is rather gray sometimes not black and white. My buttons are ” MY” buttons. Each button is a teacher.
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Renee, thank you for your comments.
Setting boundaries are never an easy thing to do, but they are necessary. When there are no boundaries set, you allow yourself up for people to take advantage of your good nature, or simply to cross lines that should not be crossed. Everyone knows their own limits. It’s just recognizing them, and putting them into play. I agree, not always black and white, but you get to decide what works for you.
Warmest Regards,
Jill
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Dear Walter,
Thank you very much for your kind comments, as they are always welcomed and appreciated.
Please contact me if I can help clarify anything for you.
Warm Regards,
Jill