Needs are merely necessities in life. Often they are essential things that are easy to recognize, like air, water, food and shelter; things necessary for survival.
Desire, on the other hand, is a natural yearning; an emotional impulse, and a hunger that moves you towards something greater. Desire is something that touches and nourishes the deepest part of your heart and soul.
The problem arises when you are not able to recognize the difference. Then the “need” for desire, distorts your perception. You become propelled by your emotions, which changes your psychological mindset. Your perception of “need” tends to grow with intensity, and then a fine line is created as well as attachments to things like material wealth. Does that come from need or desire?
Ask yourself… Are there needs in my desires? Are there desires in my needs?
Learn to create a balance. Know that it takes work, reflection and self-awareness to know the difference. It’s all part of personal development. Give it time and attention. Understand that desire gently pulls and guides whereas needs can be driven from your egoic mind. Desire is soft and encouraging while needs can be loud and demanding.
While there are things in life that are a necessity, don’t allow it to take over and change who you are. Don’t allow it to become your desperations. Yes, the heart is hungry, and the soul is thirsty. Let your desires be fuel for your creativity and passions. Let it ignite you, and move you. Let it become your aliveness.
“Plant your feelings ~ feel your emotions. Let them grow and blossom. When the soul grows ~The heart opens. This is evidence of human seasons”
~ Jill Lee, Ph.D. ~
Thanks so much for an excellent explanation. Really think I understand the difference now.
You’re most welcome Dan ~ I am glad this resonates and that you now have clarity ~
I appreciate your comments,
Warmest Regards,
Dr. Jill Lee
Desire miss understood… as sexual it is not but desire more than that which make motivation essential to keep ourselves to be successful.