Discard the Need to Judge Others

There is a truth in the saying, “How we judge others is how we judge ourselves.”

It’s human nature to be judgmental of others, as we may not even realize it, and if we do, we may not want to admit it. Through this judgment, it becomes both pervasive and problematic in all areas of your life. It also creates a division between relationships of all types.

Although judging others is a common human behavior, we must reflect on our own discernment based on our values.  

Consider what happens when we first meet someone new. The first thing we do is pass judgment. This may be based on their overall appearance. It may be based on something that’s said that you may not agree with or like. It could be based on the tone of their voice. Someone may be shy or quiet and can be judged as arrogant—so many different reasons to judge before actually knowing. Judgments can also be influenced by biases and prejudices, leading to unfair or inaccurate conclusions of others.

Do you ever stop yourself before judging and ask… “What’s their story?” Taking a moment to find out more before coming to conclusions may actually build a bridge of friendship. It can be seen as an act of kindness.

Remember that this works in both directions. While you may pass judgment on others, they may be doing the same with you. How do you feel about that?

We live in a world where sometimes it’s easier to judge, which can also be based on someone else’s opinion. It’s not a matter of being right or wrong, and it’s a matter of kindness, understanding, acceptance, and empathy. We don’t know everyone’s story or how they got there. So, try to step back and reflect before judging someone.

Accept that everyone is different and has their own way of living. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything. It does mean to show respect that everyone has the right to how they live their life.

 By cultivating empathy, self-awareness, and acceptance, you can reduce the tendency to judge and foster more positive and understanding relationships.

Discard the need to judge others ~ and while doing so ~ don’t allow yourself to be troubled by the judgment of others ~ Judgement defines no one ~

~ Dr. Jill Lee ~

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